Chapter 2 part 1 – Where do we need to integrate?

What if we integrated in vast ways? Could integrating something small really help? What would happen? Could it be any worse than now? Well this book is a lot about those questions. 

The start of learning to integrate starts with some of these Big Questions. Integration is finding communal balance, blending in our ever changing world is a challenge for everyone (but being tested to the max these days with home quarantines). One day we look at the world and the next we wake it seems different. And sometimes the difference is vast. Integration “needs” typically follow areas where we see: a lack, a need, a better possible way. These creative thoughts you have about community are your opportunity for integration.

It’s in those vast times we can find the answers we seek.

Integration starts… with accepting yourself. 

“Wait, What? No, please don’t say it!”
I hear your cries! 🙂
“Not another self help book…”
Well, yes in a way this is. But you probably thought I was going that way from last weeks chapter. 😊

The key aspect of accepting someone else’s view is being confident in your own views AND be open to those views evolving. 

You see, you can not integrate by being you, if you haven’t accepted yourself. If self judgement is your dominant nature, integrating into a new way will feel like nothing but struggling down a never ending road. However, that judgement can intentionally arise as intrigue, in an attempt to learn because you can only integrate if you learn first. To learn first you must be willing to have what thoughts you have, change. When we learn we become different we accept more, we bridge more, we strive more, we succeed more.

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Chapter 1 – Integration

Chapter 1 What does it mean to integrate?

Having grown up an Irish Catholic School girl, I then never would have imagined I’d be writing about integration. But…

That Irish Catholic School girl was going to hit some interesting bumps in the road that made for her look on the world to be much larger than 3 boxes. My life changed quiet quickly in 5th grade when a depressive state resulted in my switching from catholic school education to public school. The switch was good for me however, the effects made for a different look at the world.

By third grade, though I was already standing against the norm, I’d started to grow in all areas. One of the tallest in the class, boys or girls, once puberty started the changes became even more drastic. And oh yeah I’d started to gain weight making me also the “fat” girl. By fifth grade the teasing, isolation and loneliness had become too much. My being with the same kids for 6 years, made it difficult to be different. 

Still… who am I to talk about integration, am I right? Well, we were in the same boat. When I started thinking about the contents of this book (that you are sneak peaking on my blog) I didn’t think it would be about integration! Such a big word right? We’ve put so much on its shoulders, as we can do with words sometimes. 

I grew up with a well off, upper middle class family. My parents had landed in my hometown after college — which is when my father started his newspaper career. My mother being Hispanic (and a home maker during this chapters stories), I never realized, made her one of the darkest complected people in our church and town. My father 100% Irish passed those genes down to me. I couldn’t look more Irish if I tried! But my mom and sisters all with dark hair, eyes and skin… Well we are a unique looking bunch, especially when I dyed my hair blonde. lol! 🤣

Before we get too deep into things why don’t we back up some and I tell you a little about myself. 

Read all of chapter one